Life sucks. Not to be a pessimist, but sometimes it seems that everything goes wrong. Sure, there’s always that saying that someone has it worse than you somewhere, but quite frankly, that isn’t always the most comforting thought in the world when you have your own problems.
Today, I decided to run some errands. I ended up going to three grocery stores (plus Target, Walgreen’s and the mall), buying a few things twice and taking much longer than expected. Then I came home to put a new battery in my alarm clock (which I went to two stores to find), and it didn’t work. The clock itself is dying, which should have been obvious because the battery is only a backup. You think I would have thought about this while holding the alarm clock last night while it was still plugged into the wall. (If anyone needs any CR2032 3 volt batteries…) Wednesday night, I took a nosedive on our beautiful sidewalks during a night run. Last week, I missed Trick-or-Treat. Seriously, I completely missed Halloween this year. (If anyone needs any candy…)
“Accept failure. Enjoy it, even. Embrace the suck, for the suck is part of the process.” –A.J. Jacobs
So you know what I did? I threw the unneeded batteries in my drawer and went for a 6-mile trail run followed by 100 jumping jacks, 60 squats, a 60-second plank and 30-second high plank (with stretching pre-and post-run). Then I came home, made a green smoothie, had some trail bologna (a specialty in my world), updated the CCC Facebook page and sat down to write this blog post.
Life sucks. You’re going to fail, fall down and get beat. You have to deal with it and get up — again and again. Sometimes it’s really hard to do that when it seems like the odds are stacked against you. But I believe that we are all dealt a winning deck, eventually. If you keep working and working, things will work out. They may not be what you had planned, but they will work out. (For a real-life example, listen to Steve Jobs’s inspirational commencement address at Stanford in 2005 below.)
Honestly, this week has just been a microcosm of the past year and a half (and I left a lot out for brevity’s sake). I knew it would be the hardest thing I’ve ever done to start my own business, be my own boss and and build my client base. It’s been even harder than I expected (which somehow I expected, if that makes sense).
A 6-month battle with insurance companies over a mistake in my medical records while setting up personal insurance. People not following through on their word time and time again. Anticipated projects (and the paychecks) never materializing. Working for free. Being asked repeatedly to work for free (subject of an upcoming post). Coming from a background and an area where nobody understands what I’m doing (or why). We all have things that beat us up every day.
Are you feeling shitty? Down in the dumps? Do what makes you happy — whatever that may be. Don’t worry about what people think of you. If you’re a runner, run. If you’re a shopper, shop. If you’re a film connoisseur, catch a flick. If you’re a talker, call a friend. How long? Until the smile’s back on your face.
Cheer up. Yes, life sucks, but learn to embrace it. The suck is just one small part of this beautiful thing we call living.
What do you do when you need to cheer up?
What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done?
p.s. If you need to vent and a friend’s not available, feel free to vent below or hit me up on a social network. Seriously, I’m listening.
p.s.s. If you’re having a bad day and can’t bring yourself to comment, just throw me a like so I know you’re there. 🙂
Embracing the suck,
5 thoughts on “Embrace the Suck (Because What’s the Alternative?)”
Wow. Great column and while I wouldn’t quite say that I agree that life sucks, I will say that it is a challenge.
I have a more complex argument to make some other time.
But for now, I can only say that I remember 2 big things: never to get too enamored of my successes that I break my arm patting myself on the back, and to keep an eye out for a silver lining in dark gray clouds.
Thanks for chiming in! I agree with you; saying life sucks is a little over dramatic. It came to mind because it’s a common saying (and it does make for a great opening line). 🙂 It’s probably a little more realistic to say life’s a rollercoaster. I love your last line. It’s similar to a saying I’ve heard many times and rings so true. I appreciate you reading the CCC blog and adding insightful comments.
Feeling a bit perkier today myself, so able to take time to comment.
I really enjoyed reading this post! Its informative and entertaining.
Just want to refer you and your readers to one of mine:
“Don’t Miss The Good Stuff.” Here’s an excerpt:
Everyone’s life is full of good stuff and bad stuff. Sometimes the bad stuff exceeds the good; other times there is more good than bad. It’s so important not to miss the good stuff!
Here is the link: http://www.ahhthesimplelife.com/dont-miss-the-good-stuff/
Also, do you know the movie “You Can’t Take It With You”? It’s all about doing what makes you happy!
Thanks for commenting! I’m glad you’re having a better day today. Good thoughts, and I appreciate you letting us know about your post on a similar subject. I haven’t come across that movie before, but I’ll have to look it up.